I know grown ass people who say “this just the way I am” alllll the time
Recognizing your own toxic behaviour is peak adulting. You don’t stop learning once you turn 18+.
My dad is almost 70 and always says he’s still growing, changing, and learning. That’s what life is, an ongoing experience that you gotta be open for change in.
“That’s just how I am” is bullshit, you don’t like it or you see it affects the ones you love negatively, you change that shit.
The extent to which any of us manages to be a good person is precisely the extent to which we are willing to exercise daily if not constant vigilance.
We can form the habit of goodness, but it is so easy to slip; life is very good at coming up with novel ways for us to be mean, petty, unkind, or damaging without really noticing. Pay attention.
Amber 